I was thinking about the topic of Submission (thank you Reneee Stam :)
and I found this article on Bible.com.... (as this is one of the most difficult issues EVER for me...trust me! :o{
Don't get me wrong - I believe it 100% I'm just horrible at it!)

I have taken bits and pieces and put it here....for you!
I encourage you to zip over and check out the whole study...
but for now..here's a taste of it! :) my added comments or ideas are bold

The Submission of the Christian Wife (Ephesians 5:21-32)Study By: Bob Deffinbaugh

In general terms, submission is the placing of oneself under the one to whom we submit. Since we are commanded to submit ourselves one to another, we are to place all others above ourselves.

Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than himself; 4 do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.

When Paul speaks of the wife being in submission to her own husband, in everything, he means that she need never cease to be submissive in spirit, even if she must disobey him in a specific area. (in the case of a husband who disobeys God and requests his wife to) He means also that wives should not attempt to compartmentalize their lives, setting certain areas “off limits” to submission. ( such as saying "I’m the boss of finances….homeschool… when we have sex" etc)
In the marriage relationship, it is the husband’s privilege to portray the headship of Christ over the church by his loving and sacrificial leadership. The wife’s privilege and high calling is to symbolically represent the church in its submission the Lord Jesus Christ, its Head. The husband symbolizes Christ headship, while the wife symbolizes the submission of the church to her Head. The divinely appointed role of marriage as a symbol of Christ and the church is therefore the basis for the attitudes and behavior of both the husband and the wife.

The ungodly woman would seek to change her husband by nagging him (UM….yeah I’m gonna have to work on that!) (see Proverbs 19:13; 27:15), but the godly woman leaves change to God.

If there is any one question which should be in a young woman’s mind concerning marriage it is this one: “Is this the kind of man I want as my “head,” to whom I will submit in all things for the rest of my life?” (OH I am SO going to stress this to my daughter!!)
The world (or culture) in which we live is adamant in its resistance to the teachings of Scripture regarding the submission of wives to their husbands. Our own flesh resists subordination to the interests of others, insisting on seeking self-interests first.

Our text is about submission—the voluntary surrender of our rights and self-interest for the benefit of others and for the glory of God.
THIS IS THE BEST DESCRIPTION OF SUBMISSION I’VE FOUND!!

Now I'm sure this post won't appeal to all.
I'm sorry.
Please don't hesitate to leave comments - both good or bad - I can take it (sniff sniff) lol - really though.....We all are traveling this wife/mother/daughter of the King journey.....and it's a learning journey! I value what you have to say!
Also...let me stress again to you - I am not preaching at anyone.
I would probably be the last person qualified to do so!
(just ask my hubby who still loves me inspite of myself)
but..hey the subject is NOT dull! :)

Looking forward to hearing from you!

With all my heart ~ Michelle